25 Toxic Father Quotes | To Overcome Your Painful Past

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In this post, you will find amazing toxic father quotes. I have not included any anonymous quotes as all of them are actual things these individuals have said.

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It is a wise father that knows his own child

William Shakespeare

Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad, and that’s why I call you dad because you are special to me. You taught me the game and you taught me how to play it right

Wade Bogs – American former professional baseball third baseman

“My dad had limitations. That’s what my good-hearted mom always told us. He had limitations, but he meant no harm. It was kind of her to say, but he did do harm.”

Gillian Flynn

Becoming a dad means you have to be a role model for your son and be someone he can look up to

Wayne Rooney

“People are supossed to aspire to become their fathers, not shudder at the thought.”

Veronica Roth, Allegiant

Without the encouragement of your father, the world is a dismal place. It is very difficult to be a courageous person unless you have your father in body and spirit behind you.

Jordan Peterson

A lot of men want to be good fathers but a lot of men don’t know how and they don’t know where to go to get the proper help to learn how. Women have a network. You all have a support system that men do not have

Steve Harvey

I grew up in an household where I was scared and watched my father beat my mother up. So I was going to be the complete opposite of that. I decided to be funny, to constantly please others 

Will Smith

He would beat my ass when I was five years old. He would always say “if you’re going to cry, go home to your mother”. I wish I had someone that would just pull me aside and say “Hey, it’s going to be ok”

Dwayne Johnson

“….inability to trust was a major casualty of her father’s alcoholism. If you can’t trust your father, whom can you trust?” Trust is like the runt of our emotional litter; under harsh conditions, it’s usually the first to die.

Susan Forward Toxic Parents; Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life 

Since no mother, father or other parenting person is perfect, all humans develop this fantasy bond to some degree. In fact, growing up and leaving home involves the overcoming of this illusion of connection and protection. Growing up means accepting our fundamental aloneness. It means that we face the terrors of the night and grapple with the reality of death on our own. Most of all, it means giving up our parents in their illusory and idealized form.

John Bradshaw

These parents rule the home, with family life revolving around their wishes. A well-known example of this type is the aloof and scary father—a man with no emotional warmth for his children. children. Everything revolves around him, and the family instinctively tries to not upset him. With a rejecting father, it’s easy to feel apologetic for existing.

Lindsay C Gibson – Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents 


An important, yin/yang dynamic of reparenting involves balancing self-mothering and self-fathering. When a child’s mothering needs are adequately met, self-compassion is installed at the core of her being. When the same is true of her fathering needs, self-protection also becomes deeply embedded.

Pete Walker – Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

“What’s done to children, they will do to society.”

Karl Menninger

Healthy fathers are supportive and make their children develop an overall sense of well-being and self-confidence – improving their cognitive and social skills. All the relationships in adulthood depend on the relationship we had with our father

Caroline Foster

Narcissist Fathers come in different forms. Some are so visible that they can be detected from a mile away while others are a bit more subtle. All are damaging.

Lionel Rowe PhD

In the family with a perverse narcissistic father, there is only one very bright star: him. “Dark” sun of the family, the partner and the children exist only as satellite planets that orbit around it, reflecting their light.

Rose Mary Parker

The narcissistic family often resembles the proverbial shiny red apple with a worm inside. It looks great, until you bite into it and discover the worm. The rest of the apple may be just fine but you’ve lost your appetite.

Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman

Father is revolving around Mother like a planet around the sun. The narcissist needs to be married to a spouse who will allow her to be at the center of all the action. That is how it has to be if the marriage is to survive. In the family drama, the narcissist is the star, and her spouse takes a supporting role.

Karyl McBride – Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

YOU MAY HAVE HEARD the phrase the child is father to the man,1 which means the child is the foundation upon which adult life is built. The kind of foundation we have is critical. A resilient child serves as the foundation for a resilient adult.

Jasmin Lee Cori

“Today, when fathers are more involved in raising their children than ever before, the idea of the unique and irreplaceable role of a mother may seem old-fashioned. And yet there is significant evidence that biology has an impact on the different ways men and women nurture, and the most recent research has shown that a mother’s unique presence is critical to the emotional development

Kelly McDaniel

Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice

Charles F Kettering

“To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.”

Barbara Johnson

“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.”

Sigmund Freud

“Boys want to grow up to be like their male role models. And boys who grow up in homes with absent fathers search the hardest to figure out what it means to be male.”

Geoffrey Canada

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